If I could talk to my 16 year old self I would suggest that she not be so cocky and complacent with her lifestyle. I would tell her to just pick something physical to make a regular habit - like swimming and get over the fact that some women like to flaunt their biznatch in the change-rooms. Or bike ride leisurely as I did but more often - of course these need to be in a climate that is consistent without winter which is only fitting that I ended up in Singapore years later.

You see, I never really worked out, although I was active - I know there is a difference. I wasn't the lazy teen who sat around watching TV all day. I did stuff. I walked around my small hometown of (Preston) Cambridge, Ontario (Canada). I went dancing every weekend at The Forum - it was the 80s (thus that hair) so we danced totally awesome too. I rode my bike a lot. I didn't eat horribly. I was pretty average - in body type anyway - I was slender, not skinny and without weight issues.

I had fallen in love with boxing and light kickboxing in 2004 but as luck would have it as soon as I have a love for something I hit a brick wall. Thanks to a f*cking mosquito illness that has left me with a degenerative bone disease since 2008. sigh...

But now I am 41 - still average in body - maybe a little below the North American average but I am not in Kansas anymore. (Wizard of Oz reference. I have never been to Kansas) I am pretty ok with myself. I look younger than I am - thanks Dermalogica!

What I am fighting the most right now is not only my mental torment of the belly that won't go away post 3 children. Not only the age that creeps up on you and then stomps all over your metabolism.

I think I am also fighting my HB's midlife crisis. I think he forgot that unlike what media shows us - women age - we don't turn into Baywatch Babes as we get older - even the Baywatch Babes get older.

As we venture on the road of ageing ageless perfection you do have options to help things along - and although I personally can't see myself getting rat poison injectables or spending 2 months recovering post-surgery there is one thing that I have been trying as of late: Exilis. Introduced to me as part of my InSing Vanity Project I was given a one time trial and after seeing the results I wanted to continue with the treatment.

FYI: they are giving me a media rate which means that I am paying for the balance of my treatment.

Exilis is not meant to replace any healthy lifestyle - it is meant to enhance it. Speed things along from a little helpful friend who melts your pot.

It is a scalpel-free body sculpting aesthetic procedure that can be done in clinics over your lunch hour, still leaving you time to actually eat lunch. Exilis uses both Ultrasound and Radio Frequency to melt and firm at the same time reducing waistlines up to 4 inches! Results are virtually immediate with zero downtime and no side effects you bet I wanted to put this to the test. I'm sold.

How it works: Thermal energy melts fats with a deep heat. Typically 4 sessions are required with many seeing results after just one treatment. I read that one woman said it felt like a hot stone massage - I 100% agree. I find it relaxing - although it gets a little hot over my belly button.

After my first treatment (December 28th) I pleasantly saw a little change but it was more about how I felt that made the most impression on me – my tummy felt less bulge-y in my clothing. After my second treatment (on January 4th) I was able to fit into a dress that was too tight in the belly prior to the Holiday season. My measurements after just the first treatment had lowered 2-4 cm and that’s a measured fact!

Results last up to two years but of course with the right lifestyle and good eating habits the results are up to you to maintain.

No pain (unless you have a really low heat tolerance) and zero downtime. Side effects can be a little redness but that’s temporary. Your body eliminates the melted fats so drink a lot of water before and after your treatment to speed up the process.

This is not meant for obese people. Exilis is available for other body parts including the dreaded double chin so check with the dermatology clinic near you to see what is offered for your troubled areas.

In Singapore Exilis starts at $800 per area per session at the www.thedermatologypractice.com